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LOVE AND MARRIAGE.
The attraction of the sexes for each other, though based upon the dual
principle of generation which pervades the living world and which has
its analogies in the attractive forces of matter, yet pervades the
LOVE IS NOT MERELY
the instinctive desire of physical union, which has for its object the
continuation of the species--it belongs to the mind as well as to the
body. It warms, invigorates, and elevates every sentiment, every
feeling; and in its highest, purest, most diffusive form unites us to
God and all creatures in Him.
ALL LOVE IS
essentially the same, but modified according to its objects and by the
character of the one who loves. The love of children for their
parents, of parents for offspring, brotherly and sisterly love, the
love of friendship, of charity, and the fervor of religious love, are
modifications of the same sentiment--the attraction that draws us to
our kindred, our kind; that binds together all races and humanity
itself, resting on the fatherhood of God and the brotherhood of man.
It is but natural that this love should vary in degrees. Attractions
are proportional to proximity. Family is nearer than country; we
prefer our own nation to the rest of the race.
Each individual has, also, his own special attractions and repulsions.
There is love at first sight and friendship at first sight. We feel
some persons pleasant to us; to be near them is a delight. Generally
such feelings are mutual--like flows to like, or as often, perhaps,
differences fit into each other. We seek sympathy with our own tastes
and habits, or we find in others what we lack. Thus the weak rest upon
the strong, the timid are fond of the courageous, the reckless seek
guidance of the prudent, and so on. The sentiment of
LOVE FOR THE OPPOSITE SEX
--tender, romantic, passionate--begins very early in life. Fathers and
daughters, mothers and sons, have a special fondness for each other,
as, also, have brothers and sisters; but the boy soon comes to admire
someone, generally older than himself, who is not a relation. Very
little girls find a hero in some friend of an elder brother.
FONDNESS FOR COUSINS
generally comes more from opportunity than natural attraction, though
a cousin may have very little appearance of family relation. The law
appears to be that free choice seeks the diverse and distant. A
stranger has always a better chance with the young ladies of any
district than the young men with whom they have always been
acquainted. Savages seek their wives out of their own tribe.
It is my belief that naturally (I mean in a state of pure and
unperverted nature, but developed cultivated, and refined by
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