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purity, truth, and honor of the beloved, there can be no jealousy, no
desire for selfish absorption, no fear of deprivation of any right.
There is no reason why a husband or a wife should limit the range of
pure and spiritual affection to near relatives.
THE MAN WHO CAN LOVE
a sister as sisters are often loved, may love in the same way, or as
purely, any woman who might be his sister. As men and women learn to
purify their lives, the world will grow more tolerant and love will
become more universal. The tender and fervent exhortations to mutual
love to be found in the Gospels and Epistles of the New Testament are
now almost without a meaning. But they had a meaning to those to whom
they were addressed, and when we are better Christians, and bring our
lives to the purity of Christian morality, they will have a meaning to
us and we shall learn that, in a sense we have not dreamed of, God is
IN THE HUMAN RACE ALL CIRCUMSTANCES POINT TO MONOGAMY
as the lawful or natural condition. Males and females are born in
almost equal numbers. If there are two or three per cent. more of
males than females, the risks of life with males soon make the number
even. Therefore, as a rule, no man can have more than one wife without
robbing his neighbor.
_Polygamy_ is therefore a manifest injustice, and may become the most
grievous of all monopolies.
Children are the most helpless of all young creatures and require the
care of parents for the longest period. The care of a husband for his
wife, and of a father for his child, is an evident necessity. The
proper care and education of a single child should extend over at
least fifteen years, and that of a family may reach to thirty years,
or throughout the greatest part of an ordinary life. During all
periods of pregnancy, childbearing, nursing, and the education and
care of a family, every woman has a right to the sympathy, sustaining
love, and constant aid of her husband. No man has a right to desert or
leave helpless, or even dependent upon others, except in extraordinary
cases, the mother of his children.
Marriage, like celibacy, should be a matter of vocation.
THE SPECIAL OBJECT OF MARRIAGE
is to have children; the co-operating motive is that two persons drawn
to each other by a mutual affection may live helpfully and happily
together. A selfish marriage, for its merely animal gratifications--a
marriage in which strength, health, usefulness, often life itself, are
sacrificed to sensuality and lust--is a desecration of a holy
institution, and somewhat worse in its consequences than promiscuous
profligacy, for the consequences of that may not fall upon one's
children and posterity.
There are many persons who have no right to marry. There should be a
kind and amount of love that will justify and sanctify such a
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